On Kaley Cuoco-Sweeting’s Apparent Lack of Feminism

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There seems to be this fun new trend going on where female celebrities publicly claim to “not be feminists” or “not need feminism”. Björk did it, saying that feminism has a lot to do with complaining. Taylor Swift doesn’t consider herself a feminist because she “doesn’t really think about things as guys vs girls”, missing the point completely. Lady Gaga, though she later revised her statements (kind of), apparently thought she couldn’t be a feminist and also love men. Geri Hallowell thinks feminism is “bra-burning lesbianism”. Carrie Underwood thinks it has “negative connotations”. Dita Von Teese dodges the question entirely. Kelly Clarkson doesn’t think she can be a feminist and also have a man take care of her.

Kaley Cuoco-Sweeting is the most recent of the bunch, saying “it’s not really something I think about” and that she’s “never really faced inequality”. The article also makes a point to mention her relationship with her husband, quoting Kaley as saying “I like the idea of women taking care of their men. I’m so in control of my work that I like coming home and serving him”, and further goes on to discuss her breast augmentation, as if these things are all somehow related.

In my opinion, if she enjoys cooking for her husband and being a “housewife” in any way she wants, good for her. I am all about people making their own choices that make them happy, and if that’s a choice she enjoys making, so be it. It reminded me of a quote from Ruth Fisher, a character in the amazing series Six Feet Under:

Feminism means being accepted for who you are. I wanted to be a wife and a mother. I never gave anything up to be a mother or a wife. It was what I wanted.

As far as the breast augmentation goes, if it’s something she did for herself and it’s made her more confident and proud in her skin, again, good for her. Women AND men should do what makes them happy and make no apologies for it.

I guess what makes me sad is the obvious lack of understanding about what feminism truly is. It has nothing to do with pitting men and women against each other. It has nothing to do with calling all men evil or misogynistic or sexist. It has nothing to do with making women more powerful than men, or tipping the scales in the other direction. It has nothing to do with lesbianism at all (I’m looking at you, Geri Hallowell).

Feminism is about equal opportunities. Feminism is about bashing gender stereotypes, including those that are placed on men. Feminism is about women being taken seriously, about women receiving fair pay, about women being treated with respect. Feminism is about women feeling safe in all situations, no matter how much they’ve had to drink or what they’re wearing or what neighborhood they happen to be walking in. Feminism is about making the choices that are right for you, not the choices that are forced on you by society’s expectations. Feminism is not a bad word.

Just because you haven’t faced equality doesn’t mean you shouldn’t fight for equality.

Keeping Up With the Tragedy

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I don’t know if I can sum it up any better than Jon Stewart already has. You can view the clip of him giving a much needed serious dialogue at the opening of his December 3rd episode. It’s just unbelievable to me. You can toss around the idea of “things need to get worse before they can get any better” but it’s hard to imagine things getting any worse than they are now.

“We are definitely not living in a post-racial society,” Stewart went on, “and I can imagine there are a lot of people out there wondering how much of a society we’re living in at all.”

When it’s hard to keep up with the violence and the injustice — when you have to ask “which death?” or “which riot?” or “which completely backwards ruling?” — things have gotten so far out of hand that I can’t imagine how we’ll come back from it. I’m just so sorry for Michael Brown and Eric Garner and all of the other lives that have to be lost before we can be human again.

Let’s Deciper Robert Pattinson’s Hair TOGETHER!


I know what you’re thinking — this is CLEARLY worthy of every single site in existence FREAKING OUT. I mean… it looks normal from the front! But WHAT is going on in the back!?

We’ve got MTV speculating (it’s crazier than they thought!). Huffington Post decided to weigh in (something funky has definitely been going on, they knew it all along). The Daily Mail added their two cents (drastic!). Even CBS freaking News had to chime in (you’re not seeing things!).

Did he lose a bet? Is it VELCRO? It’s EDGY! It’s RIDICULOUS! It’s DRASTIC! It’s “CONFUSING OUR SOULS AND DISTRESSING OUR MINDS” (thanks for that one, Sugarscape)!

Or perhaps he’s having just as much of a laugh as I am that his haircut — while unusual — is getting a WHIRLWIND of media attention. I freaking hope so.

This Is News?

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By now, if you haven’t seen Kim Kardasian’s Paper Magazine cover photo, you most likely live under a rock. But really, who is honestly surprised by this? Kim Kardasian agreed to do something just for the attention, and for the opportunity to “break the Internet”. Coming from someone who is so notoriously a diva, and so obviously famous for pretty much no reason, this shouldn’t come as much of a shock… and yet it is PLASTERED ALL OVER EVERY DAMN PLACE. Everywhere I turn I see her oiled ass. Personally? I think it’s brilliant. Anything that’s done to elicit shock and awe and succeeds so brilliantly deserves at least a slow clap of acknowledgement, and I’m sure Paper Magazine’s profits from this issue will prove it.

Tig Notaro is a Goddess Among Mere Mortals

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I mean, I know, this story is spreading like wildfire. And it’s well deserved. Tig Notaro is just… too good to handle. She played Town Hall in NYC on Thursday night and, well, she rocked it. She was in the midst of a bit about a concerned security agent during a pat-down at the airport when said agent couldn’t find a bra or breasts on Notaro. See, Tig Notaro had a double mastectomy after learning she had breast cancer two years ago, and she chose not to have reconstructive surgery. She started to unbutton her jacket when a loud “Woooo!” comes echoing from the back of the hall. And, well…

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Oh yes. She continued on this way for the last 20 minutes of the show, occasionally addressing the fact that she was still, in fact, exposed… but never covering up until her standing ovation was finished. I love this woman.